The Listening Habit

C hoosing to consume content by listening to it instead of reading isn’t new, people used to listen to the radio, I had a teacher play audio books in middle school and of course, we all loved a good bedtime story. But then it stopped being so popular, visual methods took over, screens became everyone’s favorite method. And then we got too busy to just watch our content, we started multitasking since our phones became so mobile (like the mini radios), and we started to listen while driving, cleaning, organizing, walking, running, etc. Music wasn’t enough, with the rise of the self help industry (now sometimes being called self growth), we are all thirsty for information and time, hence the perfect combination, we can listen while doing another activity. I’m a huge fan of audiobooks, I listen to them all the time. And podcasts too. But just like with video, the abundance of content now available can be quite distracting.

Photo by AlphaColor

Photo by AlphaColor

It’s impossible to listen to everything, we must be selective, don’t let it overwhelm you or take over every time you have, leave space for thinking, for breathing, for living with your own thoughts or better, with your own breath. It’s easy to fill every minute we have with other people’s voices, it’s easier than dealing with our own, or even harder, the silence. But it’s so important to do so. The busier we get, the more we need to sit still. On that note, here is my latest interview - You can find all my interviews by typing BRUNA MEBS on any podcast app.

Thanks for reading. (or listening)

B.

Commercial and Personal Work

I It’s hard to believe it’s already the middle of May. I know everyone says and thinks that time goes by so fast. Looking back to what I have accomplished so far this year makes me a little upset. I have to confess I’m not quite as proud of myself. I have let my days be filled with mostly client work and making plans. I’m happy to have had all the customers and clients but I didn’t manage this very well. Every time I had either a break or a little time off, I spent on trying new techniques, overthinking where my work was going, analyzing what kind of work I even want to create, what is worth the time, and very little work actually got finished. It’s been a year of a lot of thinking and not as much doing as I would have hoped. Maybe it’s because I turned 30 and an existential crisis was about to happen, but mostly I find myself with less and less time to create whatever I want. And because I know that time is so precious, it needs to be spent right.

Photo by Cristina Byrne

Photo by Cristina Byrne

There are a lot of different things I could be doing, I have lot of ideas for different projects, but which ones are the essentials? the ones I can’t live without, the ones with the best chance of increasing my income and my happiness at the same time? Pretty tough to figure out. I still haven’t. I feel like I’m getting closer but I’m not there yet. Will I ever get there? I got to balance my plans with actions, or this could end up being a regretful year. I need a constant reminder that every plan needs to be followed by an action, or things will never be done. I told myself it’s ok to plan, journal, research and test all I want past 5pm, but until then, I need to be all about action. While I figure out what I want to be known for, what kind of work I need to spend my time creating, I’m also very thankful I have all the clients that have recently found me and are keeping me busy and productive. Why is balance so hard to achieve? Perhaps because it’s not even possible?

Thanks for reading.

B.

Seasons

I often hear people talk about focus like people are simple beings. Wouldn’t it be great if we only loved one thing, one person, one activity, wouldn’t life be so much simpler? But the difficulty lies in loving many. Most of us have many interests and things we would like to do, in order to become a master in something you must choose, so they say. By saying yes to only one thing, we are saying no to everything else. People do that when they get married, but how many actually do stay married? Nowadays people don’t even stay still in the same state they live. People change, learn, evolve, mature, and with that, their passions and desires change too. I have changed so much.

Photo by Anthony Delanoix

Photo by Anthony Delanoix

The path isn’t linear, not for most of us. It requires us to deviate many times, to try, experiment and taste first. We dabble with something as a kid, then something else as a teen, we graduate in one subject to then find out we don’t want that, we try something else. The constant search is part of being human. If we were born with everything figure out, what would be the point? That’s what machines are for. They are created for one thing, and they do that thing. I think we are meant to do more. And because of that, I agree with the quote “there are seasons for everything”. A season we tried painting, a season we tried sports, a season we wanted to be lawyers, a season we want to raise our children, etc.. living life one season at a time is the happy middle, in my opinion. Focus each season in doing what matter most, but remember, it’s ok to change. If perhaps you do find something you love, that you never want to let go, hold on dear to it, but keep in mind, nothing stays still. And I promise I’m not going to say “winter is coming” :)

Thanks for reading.

B.

Even seasonal situations can bring with them lessons that last a lifetime. If the love doesn’t last, it prepares you for the one that will.
— Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass