I f you could pick a place to live, anywhere in the world, where would you go? I think about this question quite a lot. Not because I’m planning on moving, but because it’s something that really interests me. I don’t think we belong in a place just because we were born there, I think as humans we are way more complex than that. And I don’t mean moving to place because it’s safer or anything like that, of course, that always comes into consideration, but I mean something deeper, a place where you can let your soul be free, where you truly feel you belong. Where the tastes and smells reach your heart, where the music and colors bring you joy, where the people speak your language (and I don’t mean english or spanish), I mean, where you truly belong. Not because your friends are there, not because you were born there, not because it’s safer, not because it’s cheaper, but because you feel at home.
Being from another country, I’m constantly being reminded that I chose to be where I am. Even though I only moved from Brazil to America because of my husband, I know I never belonged in Brazil. It’s just a feeling, it was a mismatch, between my soul and the brazilian soul. I’m thankful for having being raised there though, I think it shaped me to be who I am. But even if I didn’t marry an american guy, I probably would have moved somewhere anyway.
The other interesting part of this question is that I have changed so much since my early 20s. I thought NYC was the place to be, I wanted to be in the middle of all that fuss, surrounded by fashion people and shops. How much has changed. After spending quite some time there, attending college and working in the big apple, my idea of a perfect place completely turned upside down. I realized that I truly belonged by nature. I need trees, birds, flowers, water around me. I need silence, nature walks and a car. I need a roomy house with a garden and a big kitchen. I realized I knew so little about my own soul, and so much of what I thought I wanted was mostly from watching movies set in big cities. I’m not a city girl, even though I grew up in one. I’m 100% suburbs/ country fan.
And then there was a period where I thought I belonged in LA, by the beach and the cool kids, wrong again. After living there I realized, earthquakes, cold ocean water, dry lands and traffic jams were not me either. Until one day I visited Boston. I knew right then, I belong in the east coast, in a New England state. We have not yet moved there, maybe one day. I like where we live too, currently in Easton, PA. It has it’s charm, we are surrounded by trails, cute vegan restaurants and fun festivals. But finding a place where you belong, it’s more a feeling than reason.
I do think I would also very much enjoy the British country side. Or maybe Italy or France, not the city parts though, again, the country parts. But I haven’t been there, so I don’t know for sure. But life isn’t that simple is it? For the majority of us, moving to the place of our dreams is not always possible, many things can either stop or slow down that goal. But that’s where we can take a bit of control. Until you achieve the desire goal, there are ways to make yourself feel closer to where you want to live.
You can create a new england feel in your home with your decor, that’s what I did. You can also create a modern city feel if you prefer that too. Whichever you prefer, is always possible to make yourself a little closer to your favorite place. From artwork to movies, from food to music, immersing yourself where you believe you belong is as simple as closing your eyes sometimes. We don’t live in an easy world, where anyone can live anywhere, from immigration laws to jobs to families, life is tricky when it comes to moving around, but it’s not impossible. If you really have your mind set in a place, I say, go for it, but until you get there, immerse yourself with the culture where you can. Creating a Pinterest board can give you the motivation boost to start. It’s all about your lifestyle, your clothes, your choices. This process can also help you figure out where you do actually belong. Maybe you will make less mistakes than I did, maybe it can help you figure out a lot sooner, but also, always allow yourself to change, to flow with life, to go with your new ideas, it’s ok to change your mind, to outgrow a place, to try something or somewhere new.
Thanks for reading.