I have been thinking a lot about the joy of anticipation. I hear often that part of the fun is the anticipation. This is extra meaningful to me because I’m a planner. The planning stages of any project, trip or even a meal is often more fun than the actual thing. And I wonder, why? Some people get the same feeling from looking back, they talk about their memories, they love looking back at their photos. Looking back always seems sad to me, even if is looking back at the happy times. It might be because I start to miss those times.
But looking ahead at something feels a lot better. But what happens when you get addicted to the high of anticipation? You never leave the planning stages. You end up canceling, adjusting or starting over. We don’t always recognize we are doing that. Have you ever started a project and stopped half way just get started with something else? The beginning feels exciting and it’s hard to stick around when things start to normalize. And the normalization process can start to feel like we actually don’t like what we are doing. We don’t want to be bored. We don’t want to feel normal. We want to feel great, high up there. But if we ever want to accomplish anything, we need to ride the entire thing. The ups and lows. The planning stage is just that, one stage of the process.
Now, the next time I start planning something, I’m going to ask myself. Can I see myself sticking around to the end of this? Can I see myself going through the boring phase of it too? How bad do I actually want this or am I just getting high from planning it? If the answer isn’t right, than I shouldn’t even start.
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