Autumn Invitations

I f you follow me on Instagram you know, Autumn is my favorite season. I’m already impatiently waiting for pumpkin spice latte everything to hit the stores. While I wait for the leaves to fall and for the crisp air to arrive, I have been doing some research on all things fall themed, including of course, home decor.

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That’s why when Basic Invite reached out a couple weeks ago to collaborate with me, the first invitations that got my attention were their autumn themed bridal shower cards. In addition to invitations they also have a section on business cards and even free wedding and birthday websites, and most important, all customizable.

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With so many options to choose from, they have one for every taste and style. I tend to like classic things, but if you prefer something edgier they have you covered. Here are some of my favorites:

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Fewer things bring me so much joy as a thick envelope in the mail with a beautiful invitation. I really love stationery, stamps and all that old soul jazz. With so many places to choose invitations from, in my opinion, what matters the most is quality and customization. Basic Invite offers almost unlimited amount of colors to choose from, take a peak at their Instagram account. Just lovely.

*Even though this is a sponsored post, all opinions are my own. I’m always proud to share beautifully designed products.

Thanks for reading.

B.

When life gets hard

L ife recently has become extra challenging. On top of all the normal things we have to do that I was already behind on, we very sadly got a family member who is very sick. It’s on times like this when things get put into perspective and so little seems important. At times like this where some things must continue as normal as possible, like work, other things are easily put off.

Photo by  Lou Levit

Photo by Lou Levit

We are managing the best way we can by focusing only on priorities and being ok with everything to fall to the sides. But I also learned that staying busy is the best thing to pass the difficult time, allowing myself to just sit and think about things doesn't help anyway. So here we are, trying to stay productive, positive and hopeful, but also ok with taking breaks. I want to keep writing here as much as possible because as you know, if you read this blog, nothing makes me feel better than writing. It’s my way to relax, it’s therapeutic and brings me joy. Whatever stage of you life you are in, whichever challenges life throws at you, having a hobby that brings you joy is the best secret weapon you can have.

Letting go control and accepting that there is only so much we can do is not easy. I like lists, plans, schedules… I don’t like to go with the flow. I want to direct the flow. And of course, that is often times not possible. It’s humbling to find myself in situations where there is absolute nothing I can do to change the outcome. But it’s also strengthening because in letting go and being ok with it, you find yourself stronger, more mature and understanding. You learn to bow to nature, to feel at easy with the universe and to remember that in truth we don’t know anything. That we are just one little part of this vast universe and our role in it is only as big as we want to make it. It’s definitely a lesson that will take a lifetime to learn, but not an optional one. There is so much strength in gratitude without reasoning.

Thanks for reading.

B.

Where would you live?

I f you could pick a place to live, anywhere in the world, where would you go? I think about this question quite a lot. Not because I’m planning on moving, but because it’s something that really interests me. I don’t think we belong in a place just because we were born there, I think as humans we are way more complex than that. And I don’t mean moving to place because it’s safer or anything like that, of course, that always comes into consideration, but I mean something deeper, a place where you can let your soul be free, where you truly feel you belong. Where the tastes and smells reach your heart, where the music and colors bring you joy, where the people speak your language (and I don’t mean english or spanish), I mean, where you truly belong. Not because your friends are there, not because you were born there, not because it’s safer, not because it’s cheaper, but because you feel at home.

Beach in Rio

Beach in Rio

My husband and I in Rio in 2007

My husband and I in Rio in 2007

Being from another country, I’m constantly being reminded that I chose to be where I am. Even though I only moved from Brazil to America because of my husband, I know I never belonged in Brazil. It’s just a feeling, it was a mismatch, between my soul and the brazilian soul. I’m thankful for having being raised there though, I think it shaped me to be who I am. But even if I didn’t marry an american guy, I probably would have moved somewhere anyway.

In NYC

In NYC

From FIT

From FIT

In the streets of NYC

In the streets of NYC

The other interesting part of this question is that I have changed so much since my early 20s. I thought NYC was the place to be, I wanted to be in the middle of all that fuss, surrounded by fashion people and shops. How much has changed. After spending quite some time there, attending college and working in the big apple, my idea of a perfect place completely turned upside down. I realized that I truly belonged by nature. I need trees, birds, flowers, water around me. I need silence, nature walks and a car. I need a roomy house with a garden and a big kitchen. I realized I knew so little about my own soul, and so much of what I thought I wanted was mostly from watching movies set in big cities. I’m not a city girl, even though I grew up in one. I’m 100% suburbs/ country fan.

Mountains in LA

Mountains in LA

And then there was a period where I thought I belonged in LA, by the beach and the cool kids, wrong again. After living there I realized, earthquakes, cold ocean water, dry lands and traffic jams were not me either. Until one day I visited Boston. I knew right then, I belong in the east coast, in a New England state. We have not yet moved there, maybe one day. I like where we live too, currently in Easton, PA. It has it’s charm, we are surrounded by trails, cute vegan restaurants and fun festivals. But finding a place where you belong, it’s more a feeling than reason.

My country style kitchen

My country style kitchen

Easton, PA

Easton, PA

I do think I would also very much enjoy the British country side. Or maybe Italy or France, not the city parts though, again, the country parts. But I haven’t been there, so I don’t know for sure. But life isn’t that simple is it? For the majority of us, moving to the place of our dreams is not always possible, many things can either stop or slow down that goal. But that’s where we can take a bit of control. Until you achieve the desire goal, there are ways to make yourself feel closer to where you want to live.

In Boston, MA

In Boston, MA

Cape Cod

Cape Cod

You can create a new england feel in your home with your decor, that’s what I did. You can also create a modern city feel if you prefer that too. Whichever you prefer, is always possible to make yourself a little closer to your favorite place. From artwork to movies, from food to music, immersing yourself where you believe you belong is as simple as closing your eyes sometimes. We don’t live in an easy world, where anyone can live anywhere, from immigration laws to jobs to families, life is tricky when it comes to moving around, but it’s not impossible. If you really have your mind set in a place, I say, go for it, but until you get there, immerse yourself with the culture where you can. Creating a Pinterest board can give you the motivation boost to start. It’s all about your lifestyle, your clothes, your choices. This process can also help you figure out where you do actually belong. Maybe you will make less mistakes than I did, maybe it can help you figure out a lot sooner, but also, always allow yourself to change, to flow with life, to go with your new ideas, it’s ok to change your mind, to outgrow a place, to try something or somewhere new.

Thanks for reading.

B.

Letting Go

A nyone else out there a control freak? What is the right balance between taking charge and surrendering? Yes there are things we can’t control in life but there are lots that we can. I believe we must do our part and the universe/ life will do theirs.

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Photo by seth schwiet

But we must still give our absolute best, and so far, this philosophy has helped me get all the things I really wanted/ wished for. No, my life isn’t perfect and there is plenty I still want but I have gotten here with a combination of hard work and yes, I have also been very fortunate.

I don’t see trying to control things or being responsible as unrealistic, I really think life is about personal growth and to grow you must learn, try, fail, try again, but always giving your best (especially if want to speed up the process a bit). But I do also practice meditation to remind me that I’m not in control of everything, that I must always adapt to new situations and adjust at every step. Those things come to me as challenges but all part of the process. Anyway, it’s a weird post today.

Thanks for reading.

B.